The Hawk Wood, Epping Forest

It has been my first visit to Epping Forest in months, mainly because I haven’t made time for it and partially as it has been rather cold and icy of late. As always there was the very thin mix of families out for the afternoon, walkers with their dogs and a couple of joggers. I was pleased to see a whole contingent of elderly walkers enjoying the afternoon’s splendour. It felt fabulous being outside as I have kept myself rather cooped up and have been feeling stifled by the central heating. I’m not actually a natural outdoorsy-person, so I have to plan for and arrange walks like this. Here are some photos I took today.

This ancient wood stretches for 12 miles between Forest Gate and Epping

In 1882 Queen Victoria declared it ‘The People’s Forest’

 

The London Philharmonic Orchestra at The Royal Festival Hall

I absolutely adore London. I am so grateful to have grown up here with all of the diversity of cultures, food and endless opportunities. I am still amazed whenever I take a trip into town (at least once a week) and I always find something new which I haven’t experienced before.

Last night I was lucky enough to see the London Philharmonic Orchestra at The Royal Festival Hall for the second time. I managed to take one sneaky photo (as photography during the performance is not permitted) – this one was taken before it started, I might add.

I was seated behind the orchestra, facing the conductor

As someone who loves live music and concerts of any kind, this was no exception. I am not a connoisseur of classical music by any stretch of the imagination, but I can still appreciate genius when I hear it. If you have not experienced such an event, and you have the possibility to do so, I would say try it at least once. The tickets range from £9.00 to £55.00 – mine was one of the cheapest seats, but I still had a fabulous view of the whole orchestra and I was able to see all of the faces of the musicians and the conductor, which definitely added to the experience. The orchestra played Beethoven’s 4th and Mahler’s 1st symphonies.

The Royal Festival Hall’s principal conductor Vladimir Jurowski

Dreaming of a White Christmas?

I woke up the other day to find the world covered in a rather thin and threadbare blanket of snow. I was at first disappointed, as I still get that feeling of wonder and excitement when I see the snow for the first time; although soon I was relieved as I had to drive to work as school was still open. Here are some of the magical times I enjoyed in the snow last year.

Denham Village, Buckinghamshire

Tobogganing in Goettingen, Germany

Vision Boards – Making your own

In a previous post I talked about why I like using vision boards and how they have helped me to think and feel differently about my goals, and in turn, achieve them. You can read more about this here. In this post I will give you guidance to make your own.

Preparation

 As you will need to find lots of images to stick onto the board, collect a variety of magazines to cut up. I also like to draw my images or find them on Google. (As you are only using them for your personal use, you don’t need to worry about copyright.) You will also need a board of some description – I use A4 or A3 thick card or you could use a cork noticeboard for a larger version. A very powerful image to use on your board is one of yourself. Choose a photograph that you like and one where you felt happy and look great. Grab some glue, pens and embellishments of your choice and you are ready to start.

Step 1 – Collecting

If you have a clear goal…

 You may be very clear about your goal and already have a vivid picture of what it would be like if you gained it. In this case, searching the internet maybe easier because you can use Google to find the specific images that you need. Before you begin take a moment to ask yourself what you want and sit quietly with this intention in your mind. Now you are ready to start a collection of images which inspire and excite you. 

If you are unsure about a goal but want to find direction…

A vision board is also very useful to help you find out what you want. In this case, flick through the magazines and pull out pictures of anything you like and are drawn to. They may not mean anything to you currently, or even consciously, just allow your imagination to have fun. You can ask yourself ‘what do I want?’. You may just feel a one word answer like ‘beauty’ – collect images which reflect this for you.

Step 2 – Selecting

This is where you look at the collection of images you have amassed and discard any which no longer create interest or hold meaning for you. As you look through them, note down any words that pop into your head, as they can be added to your board to give another dimension. If you are unsure why you chose certain pictures, ask yourself – ‘what is this telling me?’. Chances are you will know the answer. If you don’t, but still love the picture, use it anyway.

Step 3 – Assembling

Stick your images onto the board using your intuition as a guide. Add colour, texture, pattern, glitter, words – whatever makes your goal more vivid and desirable. A photograph of yourself stuck in the middle of the board can be a simple way to create a link in your mind between you and your desires.

Step 4 – Displaying and observing

The final step is to display your board where you will see in regularly. I used one of my boards for a long-term goal on my bedside table. I saw it before I went to bed each night and when I woke up every morning.

* I would love to hear any comments you have about vision boards or about your experiences with using them. Please get in touch if you have anything to share. Thanks. *

Work-life balance, self employment and illness

I recently wrote a blog post about balancing one’s work-life commitments and living in harmony, particularly in relation to managing an illness. Here’s a taster:

Being a Wonderful Woman while certain bits of you aren’t always so wonderful

‘As someone who loves to be creative and keep my brain busy, I have realised after many years that for me, working part time and being self employed the rest of the time is a winning combination…’

For me, self employment means the freedom to choose

You can read the full post here on the Wonderful Women: Minding our own Business blog, hosted by ReeRee Rockette.

Vision Boards and goals for the new year

The concept of vision boards to help you plan your future goals has been around for a long time. If you don’t know what one is, it is essentially a board with cut-out pictures stuck onto it (from magazines or the internet) which illustrate a goal or goals that you have. Usually you would have a photo of yourself somewhere on the board too.

I think that if your brain knows what your goal will look like when you have it, you are more likely to be able to achieve that goal and that when you bring parts of your subconscious thinking and conscious thinking together, they can work together more easily. They also keep each other in check so that you actually work towards your goals, rather than just wishing for them. This is different to ‘The Law of Attraction’ because it incorporates the ‘how will I get there?’.

If you have made one before, do you think it helped you to achieve your goals? What tips could you offer someone else who might want to plan for the new year? Here’s what I found out about vision boards.

The first time I encountered vision boards was slightly by accident. On the last day of my old job, I gave a little PowerPoint presentation instead of a leaving speech (mainly to give me something to focus on and help me not to cry, and secondly because I thought it would be a nice way to share some photos from over the years). So I gave the presentation which mainly consisted of pictures of my lovely friends and some humorous stories.  Now the last page was the most interesting to me, because although the old memories were great, I needed to make the future compelling and exciting enough for me to want to leave in the first place. I also wanted to show my colleagues and friends what was in store for me and so they could wish me well on my journey.

On the last page were various pictures of my future goals:

  •  A trainer presenting in front of a big crowd (This was the new job I was about to start – but it was a big promotion and was way out of my comfort zone)
  • Myself with my partner smiling in a photo
  • My darling cat
  • Photos of plane tickets, maps of various places, passports
  • A picture of a cute house and garden

 The presentation went well; people laughed, there were a few tears. The thing that has stuck in my mind since that day was the last page featuring the bright and compelling future. I did not have a time frame set around my goals, and at times I wondered if I would be able to pull any of them off, but amazingly enough I achieved them all over the next 18 months!

During that time I got married and went travelling around the world for 6 months. My new home has been decorated to reflect my personality and make space for another to share with me. Having learnt so much from that new job, I decided to finally live my dream of travelling, and opened my mind to the possibility of starting a completely new career. And so on went my journey… and it continues still 🙂

Don’t get me wrong- I am sure I would have achieved all of those things without my goals being illustrated on a PowerPoint (!), but I am aware that I respond well to images and visuals (my memories are vivid pictures and moving films) and even though I was not intending it that way, the pictures helped me to form my goals in a way that made me really want to achieve them. I realise now that to me, vision boards are like an extended and more permanent version of a list, or a mind map.

I use a combination of  techniques to help me plan, organise and even to make decisions- including mind mapping, brainstorming and making lists.

 A mind map (of sorts) to solve a problem

A more traditional mind map – a diary of a weekend away Example of brainstorming ideas for a training day

The humble list – a useful tool

*Tony Buzan’s Mind mapping books are a great way to learn more about how we organise and plan our thoughts. *

Planning your future

I like to plan some things but I also like the flexibility of being able to be impulsive and ‘live in the moment’. The latter has taken me a long time to learn to do. It did not come easily to me and I have now learnt some ways to be able to bring myself back to the present – one of them is setting long-term goals and making them more vivid in my imagination by using vision boards.

If you call a taxi to take you on a journey, you need to know where you are now and where you want to go. Obviously you need the funds to cover the cost of the journey. You might want to find out more about the taxi driver or the journey (e.g. the estimated journey time or what car to look out for). You don’t really need to know how you will get from point A to point B at this stage (although if the driver is taking you the long way around, or is completely off the route, you will need to know that so you can intervene). You also need to know when you have reached your destination. You might even tweak the journey it a bit, or have an extra stop, like asking the taxi driver to stop at a cash point.

How will you know when you have reached your destination?

Where am I now? Where do I want to go?

So if point A is the present (where you are now) and point B is the future, (where you want to go) you just need to want to go to point B at this stage. If your future goal(s) at point B are desirable, compelling, strong words, images and feelings you are more likely to get there if they are foggy and unclear. What if they are foggy and unclear?

A vision board can help you gain clarity about what you want to achieve.

Sometimes we focus so much on how we will get from A to B that we struggle to get there. 

If you focus on the future – what you want to achieve, making bright, clear, attractive, warm pictures, your sub-conscious mind will work out the how.

There will be more on the steps of making your own VB later!

An Example of a Vision Board I have used

One of my long term goals has been health related and although I can’t say that I never experience the issues I used to have, they seem to arise less often, and when they do, they are less of a problem. I know I feel so much better because my attitudes towards my own health have changed. Instead of being angry and frustrated about feeling under-the-weather, I take responsibility for my well-being by having enough rest, taking exercise, eating well, enjoying myself and keeping my brain as well as my body happy by making time to enjoy my hobbies. I no longer look at the situation as if I am ‘a person with illness x’, I am not ‘ill’. By changing the way I speak about my health (as opposed to my illness) I have changed the way I think about it, and in turn feel about it.

I used to have a bad feeling about the physical symptoms I had. Now when I experience the physical symptoms, I remove the bad feeling. The feeling about the feeling has changed! So it feels less of a problem. It is what it is, nothing more and nothing less. By acknowledging it, sometimes that’s enough to make it go away. If it doesn’t, I ask myself why it’s there? I have learnt to trust my subconscious to help me. The vision board below has been on my bedside table for a year. It has been the last thing I have seen at night and the first thing I have seen in the morning. Both consciously and subconsciously it has helped me to remember my goal and keep working at it. I am going to keep this board nearby as a reminder and make some room for my new year boards.

Example of a vision board I have used for over a year

I’d love to hear your questions or thoughts on vision boards – please drop me a line or leave me a comment below. 

Rodrigo y Gabriela Concert, Shepherd’s Bush Empire

 Here are some photos from an amazing concert I went to a few weeks ago. If you know Rodrigo and Gabriela, or have watched them on YouTube, you will have an idea of how incredibly talented these musicians are. This was the second time I had seen them (the first was at The Roundhouse in 2007) and even though I have watched lots of video clips – it was surprise to watch Gabriela’s unique guitar playing style again. Watch them performing Hanuman from their new album 11:11 here. It was also beautiful how respectful the crowd were when they played their slower, more classical-style songs. Usually for a concert, you could hear a pin drop at those points. I loved the speeches the two of them made between the songs, and the fact that rather than playing at Wembley Arena for one night, they chose to play 5 nights at The Shepherd’s Bush Empire instead, even though this meant 5 lots of bills! And this paid off – the intimacy of the venue (as I have said about small venues before) just brought it alive even more!

Rodrigo and Gabriela say goodnight

 

In full flow

 

 

The Bird Keeper by Issy Festing – Book Launch

 I recently attended the book launch of a new novel entitled ‘The Bird Keeper’ by Issy Festing which was held at The Royal College of Medicine. I had pre-ordered the book and was raring to read it – in fact I devoured the whole thing in a few days.

It’s about a young Indian man called Satchin Rai who goes against his family’s expectations of continuing his father’s tea emporium and follows his heart to work at a bird sanctuary instead. Added to this are his burgeoning homosexual feelings, which are awakened by the arrival of charismatic Englishman Peter Madson. The novel follows Satchin as he tries to work out which paths he should follow or give up. I found it fascinating to watch Satchin’s inner struggle as he wrestled with society’s expectations and his own desires. I also loved the description of the bird sanctuary- although I have never been anywhere like it, I feel as though I have.

The author has really got into the mind of the male characters, which I would imagine is difficult being a woman, and has captured the essence of their personalities throughout the novel, even in the brevity of her descriptions. There is a lovely scene where Satchin’s masculine preferences are juxtaposed against his mother’s endless fussing and frilly doilies! Something about the book reminded me of the film ‘A Single man’ which I watched earlier this year, and also of ‘Goodbye to Berlin’ (which was made into the film ‘Cabaret’) both by Christopher Isherwood. As I read this book, I could picture every scene as if it were on film. I love Merchant Ivory films and have had the box set of ‘Merchant Ivory In India’ on my wish list for a while – so this book was perfect for me.

‘The Bird Keeper’ is available from Waterstones and Amazon.

Issy introduces her book and says some ‘thank-you’s

The Bird Keeper by Issy FestingQueuing up to get my book signed

Have a look at The Book Guild’s photos here

Autumn scenes

These are some photos I took last year in the beautiful Northumbrian countryside. For anyone who has been there, you will know that it is a place of extraordinary vistas, which stretch for miles. As the northern most county in England, it is also the least densely populated, which accounts for the views of undisturbed natural beauty. The trees in these photos made me think of Salvador Dali’s ‘Swans Reflecting Elephants’ when I saw the reflections in the water. Have a look below:

 

 

 

 

Beautiful autumn gourds

Happy Halloween!

Autumn sunshine and alarm clocks

I’ve been neglecting my blog  for a while, so sorry about that. It feels as though there are so many situations or conversations that I am part of every day where NLP comes up, and that in essence is what I want to talk about in my journal. I can’t blog fast enough for the number of ideas buzzing around my head!

When I was a teenager, one of my favourite lyrics to quote was ‘I’ve got sunshine on a cloudy day’ (Smokey Robinson) but as I have got older, I find that I need a bit more help keeping that sunshine in me when outside it’s grey and cold. To help me with waking up in the mornings (one of my daily challenges) I have finally invested in a ‘dawn simulator’ clock, which gradually gets brighter and brighter until your choice of wake-up time, thus waking you up in a more natural and gentle way. The very word ‘alarm’ says it all for me, so I will test out my new toy and let you know how I get on.

There’s nothing like sunshine to lift the spirits, and my recent weekend in Barcelona did the trick. It was a welcome break, where I lapped up the last blast of autumn sun rays.

 

View from Montjuic, Barcelona